Secret of happy married life

Once X asked Y, "What is the secret behind your happy married life?"


Y said, "You should share responsibilities with due love and respect to each other. Then absolutely there will be no problems."

X asked, "Can you explain?"

Y said, "In my house, I take decisions on bigger issues where as my wife decides on smaller issues. We do not interfere in each other's decisions."

Still not convinced, X asked Y "Give me some examples"

Y said," Smaller issues like which car we should buy, how much amount to save, when to visit home town, which Sofa, air conditioner, refrigerator to buy, monthly expenses, whether to keep a maid or not etc are decided by my wife. I just agree to it"

X asked, "Then what is your role?"

Y said," My decisions are only for very big issues. Like whether America should attack Iran, whether Britain should lift sanction over Zimbabwe, whether to widen African economy, whether Sachin Tendulkar should retire etc etc. Do you know one thing, my wife NEVER objects to any of these".



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Life

At a  fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning  disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that  would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school  and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: 'When not interfered  with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with  perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do.  He cannot understand things as other children do. Where  is the natural order of things in my son?' The  audience was stilled by the query. The father continued. 'I believe  that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled  comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents  itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.' Then he  told the following story: Shay and I had walked past a park where  some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think  they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone  like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if  my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of  belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his  handicaps. I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not  expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and  said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I  guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the  ninth inning.' Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a  broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye  and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being  accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few  runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning,  Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits  came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the  field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands. In  the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two  outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay  was scheduled to be next at bat. At this juncture, do they let Shay  bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was  given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because  Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with  the ball. However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher,  recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment  in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay  could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung  clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss  the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the  ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher. The game  would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could  have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been  out and that would have been the end of the game. Instead, the  pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach  of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started  yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!' Never in his life had  Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down  the baseline, wide-eyed and startled. Everyone yelled, 'Run to  second, run to second!' Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards  second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. B y the time  Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball . the  smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for  his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the  tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally  threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran  toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the  bases toward home. All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the  Way Shay' Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop  ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and  shouted, 'Run to third! Shay, run to third!' As Shay rounded  third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet  screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!' Shay ran to home, stepped on the  plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game  for his team 'That day', said the father softly with tears now  rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of  true love and humanity into this world'. Shay didn't make it to  another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero  and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully  embrace her little hero of the day! AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO  THIS STORY: We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a  second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices,  people hesitate. The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely  through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often  suppressed in our schools and workplaces. If  you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're  probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the  'appropriate' ones to receive this type of message Well, the person who  sent you this believes that we all can make a  difference. We  all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the  'natural order of things.' So many seemingly trivial interactions  between two people present us with a choice: Do we pass along a little  spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave  the world a little bit colder in the process? A wise man once said  every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst  them. You now have two choices: 1. Delete 2.  Forward May  your day, be a Shay Day.

8 Things u should never say to your Kids

8 Things u should never say to your Kids

 

When you're at the end of your tether, it's easy to blurt out things you don't mean. Here's what not to say to your child

WHY CAN'T YOU BE MORE LIKE YOUR BROTHER OR SISTER?

Comparisons with brothers or sisters won't just make kids feel inadequate, they can also drive siblings apart, sparking rivalry and rows. Child expert Professor Joe Elliott of Durham University says: "Instead of trying to be as good as his sibling, this could make a child think he can never compete. To protect his sense of selfworth, he won't even try. That way it looks like he's not as good only because he didn't bother trying." So, accept every kid is born different. Build up struggling siblings by focusing on each child's individual talents and strengths.
WAIT UNTIL YOUR DAD GETS HOME
Passing the buck to your partner undermines your authority - and makes kids ask themselves why they should listen to you. Joe says: "It can also cause tension. The other parent comes home tired after work and doesn't want to play the bad cop, or else doesn't handle it the way you'd like." In any case, if you leave it to the end of the day, younger children will have forgotten what they did wrong in the first place. Instead of handing over responsibility and making threats, deal with bad behaviour then and there.

IF YOU KEEP DOING THAT, A WITCH/MONSTER WILL COME AND GET YOU.

"Terrifying kids might work well in the short term," says Joe, "but there's a danger that this will traumatise them and lead to nightmares." Plus it's only a short-term fix. "Eventually the child finds out you've lied and that will erode their faith in you. It's essential the authority comes from you, not from some outside force." Instead, if children do not do as they are asked, Joe advises parents to rely on body language and tone of voice. "Get down on their level, look directly at them and tell them calmly what it is you want them to do. Good eye contact goes a long way."

IF YOU DON'T HURRY UP, I'M GOING TO LEAVE YOU HERE

Perhaps the biggest fear young children have is that they will get lost or abandoned. But while you know you would never leave them behind, they don't and it's wrong to exploit that anxiety. Joe says: "It may work the first time but ultimately it's an empty threat and ends up losing its power." Instead look at why your child isn't ready and remember that kids are easily distracted and don't have the same concept of urgency as grown-ups. Ask yourself if you need to give them more warning. Look for calm ways to speed things along — like turning off the TV or letting them take along a favourite toy.

YOU'RE SUCH A NAUGHTY CHILD

You may think you're helping to manage your child's behaviour by saying what they're doing wrong. In fact, by labelling your child, they start to believe naughtiness is part of who they are and try to live up to the label, says Joe. Separate the child from their actions. Rather than saying, 'You are naughty', say, 'I don't like the way that you are behaving'. Give kids good labels to live up to. Joe advises: "Tell the child he is usually so good you would like that to be the way he always behaves."

THIS IS SO EASY, WHY ARE YOU GETTING IT WRONG?

One of the very worst things you can do if kids are having difficulties with their homework or reading is to get tense. Asking exasperated questions will make them nervous and you will get trapped in a vicious circle. "Tell them you think they could do a little better if they concentrated a little more," advises Joe. If the child makes a mistake, say 'Nearly,' and let them have another go. Don't get frustrated because kids learn at different rates. Instead keep it fun by giving your child a tickle for extra effort, or pointing out something funny in their book.

I WISH YOU'D NEVER BEEN BORN

Regardless of what the child has done or how pushed to the limit you are, this is the worst possible thing you can say to a child. "This is all about getting a release for the frustrated parent and few mums and dads really mean it," says Joe. But if kids believe it's true, they will never forget it and they may internalise it, so it damages their self-worth.
   If you ever feel close to saying something like this, go to another room until you have calmed down.

WHY DO YOU NEVER DO A THING I TELL YOU?

This may seem like a mild remark but, if you keep repeating it, the underlying message to children is that they are a menace. They get the impression that they can never do anything right so why bother trying.
   "Questions like these never get an answer from kids so there's no point in asking them," says Joe. Instead of getting exasperated, be specific about exactly what you want them to do and explain: 'I would prefer you to do it this way'. "Use your body language and voice to give the message that you expect them to do as you say," says Joe.
   Daily Mirror

 

 

Give me one more chance !!! I am not Responsible if u had tears after reading the mail.

It’s another morning..
….. Again I have to go to office.

Ohh, this is me… I shouted having a glance on my snap in today’s news paper.
But what the HELL it is doing in the death column??

Strange…

One sec... Let me think, last night when I was going to bed I had a severe pain in my chest, but I don’t remember anything after that, I think I had a sound sleep.

Its morning now, ohh….. It’s already 10:00 AM, where is my coffee?
I will be late for office and my boss will get a chance to irritate me.

Where is everyone…??? I screamed.

“I think there is a crowd outside my room, let me check.” I said to myself.

So many people….. Not all of them crying…
But why some of them crying…

WHAT IS THIS??? I m laying there on the floor…

“I AM HERE” … I shouted!!! No one listen.
“LOOK I AM NOT DEAD” … I screamed once again!!! No one is interested in me.
They all were looking me on the bed.

I went back to my bed room.

“Am I dead??” I asked myself.

Where is my wife, my children, my mom-DAD, my friends?

I found them in the next room, all of them were crying… still trying to console each other.

My wife was crying… she was really looking sad.
My little kid was not sure what happened, but he was crying just coz his mom was sad.

How can I go without saying my kid that I really love him, I really do care of him. ??
How can I go without saying my wife that she is really most beautiful and most caring wife in this world..??
How can I go without saying my parents that I m … just because of u ??
How can I go without telling my friends that without them perhaps I have done most of the wrong things in my life… thanks for being there always when I need them… and sorry for not being there when they really need me..

I can see a person standing in the corner and trying to hide his tears…
Ohh… he was once my best friend, but a small misunderstanding made us part, and we both have strong enough ego to keep us disconnect.

I went there.. And offered him my hand, “Dear friend… I just want to say sorry for everything, we r still best friend, please forgive me.”

No response from other side, what the hell?? He is still preserving his ego, I am saying sorry… even then!!!
I really don’t care for such people.

But one sec…. it seems he is not able to see me!!!! He did not see my extended hand.
My goodness… AM I REALLY DEAD???

I just sat down near ME; I was also feeling like crying…

“OHH ALMIGHTY!!!! PLEASE JUST GIVE ME FEW MORE DAYS…”
I just wasn’t to make my wife, my parents; my friends realize that how much I love them.

My wife entered in the room, she looks beautiful.
“YOU R BEAUTIFUL” I shouted.
She didn’t hear my words, in fact she never heard these words coz I never said this to her.

“GOD!!!!” I screamed… a little more time plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..
I cried…

One more chance please… to hug my child, to make my mom smile just once, to feel my dad proud on me at least for a moment, to say sorry to my friends for everything I have not given to them, and thanks for still being in my life….

Then I looked up and cried!!!!

I shouted….

“GOD!!!! ONE MORE CHANCE PLEASE!!!!”

"You shouted in your sleep," said my wife as she gently woke me up. "Did you have a nightmare?"

I was sleeping….
Ohh that was just a dream….

My wife was there… she can hear me…
This is the happiest moment of my life…
I hugged her and whispered…. “U R THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CARING WIFE IN THIS UNIVERSE…. I REALLY LOVE U DEAR”

I can’t understand the reason of the smile on her face with some tears in her eyes, still I m happy…. J


“THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS SECOND? CHANCE.”

So, Now it’s not late.. Forget your egos, past……….., and express your love to others………. Be friendly…………… keep smiling and be happy for ever…

Read till the end..Don't Miss the Moral.

Hope you like this...



Once PVNR (PV Narasimha Rao), L.K.Advani and Laloo Prasad Yadav were
travelling in an autorickshaw. They met with an accident and all three of
them died.
Yama Raja was waiting for this moment at the doorstep of death.

He asks PVNR and Advani to go to HEAVEN.

But, for Laloo, Yama had already decided that he should be sent to HELL.
Laloo is not at all happy with this decision.

He asks Yama as to why this discrimination is being made. All the three of
them had served the public. Similarly, all took bribes, all misused public
positions, etc.

Then why the differential treatment?

He felt that there should be a formal test or an objective evaluation before
a decision is made; and should not be just based on opinion or pre-conceived
notions.



Yama agrees to this and asks all the three of them to appear for an English
test.

PVNR is asked to spell " INDIA " and he does it correctly.

Advani is asked to spell " ENGLAND " and he too passes.

It is Laloo's turn and he is asked to spell " CZECHOSLOVAKIA ".

Laloo protests that he doesn't know English.

He says this is not fair and that he was given a tough question and thus
forced to fail with false intent.



Yama then agrees to conduct a written test in Hindi (to give another chance
assuming that Laloo should at least feel that Hindi would provide an equal
platform for all three).

PVNR is asked to write "KUTTA BOLA BHOW BHOW". He writes it easily and
passes.

Advani is asked to write "BILLY BOLI MYAUN MYAUN". He too passes.

Laloo is asked to write "BANDAR BOLA GURRRRRR....."
Tough one. He fails again.



Laloo is extremely unhappy.

Having been a student of history (which the other two weren't),he now
requested for all the 3 to be subjected to a test in history

Yama says OK but this would be the last chance and that he would not take
any more tests.

PVNR is asked: "When did India get Independence ?". He replied "1947" and
passed.

Advani is asked "How many people died during the independence struggle?".

He gets nervous. Yama asked him to choose from 3 options: 100,000 or 200,000
or 300,000.
Advani catches it and says 200,000 and passes.

It's Laloo's turn now.
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Yama asks him to give the Name and Address of each of the 200,000 who died
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Laloo accepts defeat and agrees to go to HELL.

Moral of the story: IF YOUR MANAGEMENT HAS DECIDED TO SCREW YOU, THERE IS NO ESCAPE..... ...

5'' Seconds Between Life & Death.....SEE ONCE..

5 Seconds Between Life & Death.....



Like you, this man too, had a dream.
Like you, he too pushed his way into the crowded train
Like you, he too wanted to get going before he got delayed
Unlike you, he slipped and fell in the gap between the train and the platform at Kandivli station
And eight bogies went over him
Find out what happened to this man on




The man obviously has a guardian angel and supportive bystanders who told him exactly what he shouldn't do — move. And so, the man lay absolutely still as eight bogies of the train passed over him — centimeters from his head. Within seconds the 12-coach train passed and the man clambered out, unaided, unhurt, but too shocked to speak to us after his near-death experience
Untidy safety habits
Can trip you up.
This Guy was Lucky,
Dont cross Railway Tracks ever & make a mess of ur Valuable Life


whatever happens it happens for good!

The Challenge

The Japanese have always loved fresh fish. But the water close to Japan has not held many fish for decades. So to feed the Japanese population, fishing boats got bigger and went farther than ever. The farther the fishermen went, the longer it took to bring the fish. If the return trip took more time, the fish were not fresh. To solve this problem, fish companies installed freezers on their boats. They would catch the fish and freeze them at sea. Freezers allowed the boats to go farther and stay longer. However, the Japanese could taste the difference between fresh and frozen fish. And they did not like the taste of frozen fish.

The frozen fish brought a lower price. So, fishing companies installed fish tanks. They would catch the fish and stuff them in the tanks, fin to fin. After a little thrashing around, they were tired, dull, and lost their fresh-fish taste. The fishing industry faced an impending crisis!
But today, they get fresh-tasting fish to Japan. How did they manage? To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies still put the fish in the tanks but with a small shark.

The fish are challenged and hence are constantly on the move. The challenge they face keeps them alive and fresh!

Have you realized that some of us are also living in a pond but most of the time tired and dull? Basically in our lives, sharks are new challenges to keep us active. If you are steadily conquering challenges, you are happy. Your challenges keep you energized. Don't create success and revel in it in a state of inertia. You have the resources, skills and abilities to make a difference. Put a shark in your tank and see how far you can really go!

"Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character" - Albert Einstein

NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE IN THE WORLD

An old man lived alone in a village. He wanted to spade his potato garden, but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in prison.
The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned his situation:

Dear Son,
I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won't be able to plant my potato garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden, because your mother always loved planting time. I'm just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. If you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for me, if you weren't in prison.
Love,
Dad

Shortly, the old man received this telegram: "For Heaven's sake, Dad, don't dig up the garden!! That's where I buried the GUNS!!"

At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and local police officers showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns.

Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son telling him what happened, and asked him what to do next.
His son's reply was: "Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad.. It's the best I could do for you from here."

Moral:

NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE IN THE WORLD, IF YOU HAVE DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING DEEP FROM YOUR HEART YOU CAN DO IT. IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT MATTERS NOT WHERE YOU ARE OR
WHERE THE PERSON IS .....

MUST READ........ WHEN A LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN'T WE?

This is a true story that happened in Japan.

In order to renovate the house,

someone in Japan breaks open the wall.

Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls.

When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there

because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet.

He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail,

it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was first built.



What happened?


The lizard has survived in such position for 10 years!!!!!!!!!!

In a dark wall partition for 10 years without moving, it is impossible and mind-boggling.

Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years!!! without moving a single step--since its foot was
nailed!

So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating.

Later, not knowing from where it came appears another lizard, with food in its mouth.

Ah! He was stunned and touched deeply.

For the lizard

that was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 10 years...


Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without giving up hope on its partner.

Think, will u do that to your partner?

Think that will you do it to your Mom,

Who brought you after a big struggle of nine long months?


Or at least to your Dad, Friends, Co-workers, brothers and Sisters?


Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can't.

As information and communication technology advances,

our access to information becomes faster and faster.

But the

distance between human beings . . . is it getting closer as well?

Please never abandon your loved ones

Never Say U R Busy When They Really Need You ...

You May Have The Entire World At Your Feet.....

But You Might Be The Only World To Them....

A Moment of negligence might break the very heart which loves you thru all odds..


Before you say something just remember..It takes a moment to Break but an entire life to make...
To Live Use Heart And to Survive use Brains.


Then Life would be a paradise Unfurling only Love Joy and
Happiness.....


Spread this message to everyone you Love and Help them Live life and not
merely Survive....

Life is

CONTENT OR CONTAINER

Group of graduates, well established in their careers, were talking at a
reunion and decided to go visit their old university professor, now
retired.

During their visit, the conversation turned to complaints about stress in
their work and lives.

Offering his guests hot chocolate, the professor went into the kitchen and
returned with a large pot of hot chocolate and an assortment of cups -
porcelain, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some
exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the hot chocolate.

When they all had a cup of hot chocolate in hand, the professor said:
"Notice that all the nice looking, expensive cups were taken, leaving
behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only
the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

The cup that you're drinking from adds nothing to the quality of the hot
chocolate.. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even
hides what we drink.

What all of you really wanted was hot chocolate, not the cup; but you
consciously went for the best cups... And then you began eyeing each
other's cups.

Now consider this: Life is the hot chocolate; your job, money and position
in society are the cups.

They are just tools to hold and contain life.

The cup you have does not define, nor change the quality of life you have.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the hot
chocolate God has provided us. God makes the hot chocolate, man chooses the
cups. The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make
the best of everything that they have.

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. And enjoy your hot
chocolate.:)

Stages in Life...

We have 3 stupid stages of life………..


Teen age:

Have Time + Energy …but No Money




Working Age:

Have Money + Energy …but No Time




Old age:

Have Time + Money …but no Energy